Did I really just read this????
No It's not about female vanity, it's about access. Believe me with what I see at work EVERY DAY, these people couldn't give two
about their looks if they have chosen to take their life. More men that attempt/commit suicide have access to weapons and more women have access to medications. But, does it really matter? We all have demons and things that make us sad. For the most part (and this isn't true for everyone) these people are so sad they feel this is their only option and they have run out of their ways to cope. And it's not just their pain, it's the pain & guilt we see in their loved ones with their every attempt or when they finally succeed.
I am so fortunate that I have only experienced this professionally & not personally. I do though, have many friends acquaintances that have been affected by a loved one that has committed suicide. I don't ever want to feel that type of emotional pain.
Now back to some professional commentary. I work with some great psychiatric professionals: docs, MSW, nurses.There is a pattern to the time of year that people attempt suicide. People that are acutely depressed (loved one dies, divorce, financial problems, relationship break up) and by acute, doesn't necessarily mean "new" depression. These are people that with their raw memories or old memories have more issues around holidays/special dates: Christmas, Hannukka, birthdays, anniversaries, etc) that will attempt during those times of remembering. These seem to be less successful and a lot of times a "cry for help". They usually are easy to "find", call loved ones or EMS prior to or after the attempt (obviously not a gun) and prior to the attempt have a "sad" or "depressed" affect.
Then there are the people that have true psychiatric diagnoses: bipolar, schizo, chronic/organic depression (these people are just *depressed* without an "reason"), etc. These people are usually more successful at suicide. The can be sad, depressed or with a flat affect, but then usually they are perky and *happy* prior. That is usually because they now have an active *plan* and know they will be most likely successful. They write letters to loved ones and get their affairs in order. If they plan on using a gun, some will actually call EMS right prior to the act with instructions on organ donation. Yes, this really does happen!. Even though this can happen any time of the year, these people seem to be more affected by the seasons. In particular, we see more of these at work during the fall & spring equinoxes. Why? Who knows? But, we definitely get more during this time.
So all of the that is professional observation from being a CCU/ICU nurse for the last 20 years. Are there exceptions to the rules? Yep, because when it come to suicide there are no rules.
That is all.