My take atm is that these 2 are impatient and are trying to make something happen. Rather than just let it happen. I'm doing nothing but tip and balance. Absolutely no rotary.
So... There's slow and there's slow. Instructors love to say "learn it slow before you learn it fast." My observation is that there are lots of skiers who can't muster the faith to make railroad track turns even at the minimum speed required to bend the ski. They're just too uncomfortable with the speed, so they bail out, as you describe. I suspect the solution is to spend lots more time doing it on REALLY flat terrain and only VERY GRADUALLY moving to steeper green or easy blue terrain. In other words, skiing by yourself.