I finally saw my trainer after far too long! We talked strategy (I'd like to train for a deadlift competition next year; he's new to training for power lifting, but game) and form and whatnot. It was good.
Here's what came out of it:
* He said that the higher rep sets are generally for endurance and to some extent muscle growth (ie, body builders would do more like 12 reps). This is consistent with what I'd read. The idea was that several months of 10 rep deadlift sets would give me a good baseline for what's to come. Starting next week, I'll be doing fewer reps per set. Generally speaking, the plan is for cycles of four weeks of intense training, followed by an easier week, then the next cycle.
* Low weight / high rep: He said that it's a tradeoff. He said that low weight / high rep is certainly safer, but that I am willing to trade a certain degree of safety for performance. Honestly, as picky as he is about form, I think I'm in good hands safety wise.
* I need a lifting belt! Eventually. I will train without it, but I'll need it for the big one rep stuff.
* He's going to have me do mock competitions occasionally, so we can work on figuring out the best strategy for choosing the weight I'll lift.
* For now, I want to stick with a normal grip to work up my strength, and he agrees. For the really big lifts of the future, he suggested we can work on a hook grip.
We worked on deadlift technique today, so no big lifts, just 165. I relax my upper back between lifts. He says that would be fine on lowering if I were doing my last rep, and is very safe, but for now he wants me to perfect the "touch and go" - which is somewhere between a bounce (too fast) and resetting for every rep (too slow). And don't let my upper back relax from the start to the end of the set. I was pretty wobbly making these changes, but slowly getting better. But aside from all that - he called my deadlift form (prior to the change) "crisp," which is a pretty nice thing to hear.
My physical therapist had assigned me dumbbell presses, but my shoulder didn't like them. So my trainer modified these - I used an incline bench, but just one notch short of the max, still pushing the dumbbells vertically. This was pain-free for small weights.
And we worked on squats. Front squats hurt my shoulder because of how you have to "shrug" forward. We tried a modification with two kettlebells instead, but it still didn't feel great. He was leery of a regular (barbell) squat for my shoulder, but I assured him that the motion actually was the kind of stretching that I'm supposed to be doing, anyway. So I did some baby squats, very light weight. He showed me that if I only step a few inches back from the J cups holding the bar, I can tell if I'm leaning too far forward in the squat - the bar will hit on the way up! He was correct.
I don't remember if I mentioned before, but there will be a deadlift setup in my garage within I think the next month. It should make getting those sets in a lot easier. Deadlifts + rest take a lot of time!
I'm eying a women's bar (25mm / 15kg) for home use ... ponder ponder ...