I think these two points indicate that there are different mindsets, and perhaps even different wiring in our brains - I also find that cash just "disappears" and takes special effort to track. For example, I made two purchases the last time I was at the farmer's market. Peaches at one stand, tomatoes at the other. I can remember the price of the peaches - but for the life of me, no idea what the tomatoes cost, and no way to find out. So I can't even accurately document the cost in my budget spreadsheet. I made a guess. There are places like farmer's markets where receipts aren't necessarily available. I could, I suppose, document each purchase on the fly, or always put a set amount of cash in my wallet every day so that I could do the math - but this seems perverse.
Of course, you CAN in fact track debit cards digitally, so that's like cash with tracking. Except that cash is already out of your account, so it tends to "feel" like free money to me.
But if credit cards represent too much of a temptation, yes, get rid of them. (A little voice says - and what if you suddenly have an unexpected expense you can't afford? Your kid needs emergency health care and your insurance doesn't cover it? Maybe that's a bad example because hospitals will generally work with you. But there must be circumstances that are worse than debt, even at usurious interest rates.)
Regardless, I'm finding it's quite an effort to adapt to a new financial picture. I still haven't adapted my understanding of what constitutes a "small" expense. I'm sure retirement has a similar effect, or job loss - although with job loss, I hope most of us could expect to return to prior income levels. But of course, that's not always true.
Then there are those notices at gas stations saying that you shouldn't use debit cards because the authorization process will take a bite out of your funds. I haven't tested that - like I said, haven't had a debit card in years. I *assume* the money would go back after the purchase goes through?
Okay, this is exactly my thought process. Nice to know a pro has the same thoughts ;-) .
I've also done this. I in fact caught a fraudulent charge this way maybe 15 years ago via daily review. The bank reps were actually a little confused - they didn't know how to record a fraud charge that was detected before the statement went out. Things are very different these days. (That was a $3k charge followed by an attempt at a $17k charge. "Are you sure you didn't do this?" "Uh, no, I did not buy $17k of shoes in Hong Kong. Also, it would exceed my limit.")
I apologize. I didn't mean to nitpick your choices, although clearly I did. I agree that if it works for you, it is a good policy. I do like to probe in order to understand more. There are tradeoffs. Statistically, as a population, we may overspend with credit cards. Maybe I do, too. But in my case, my budgeting is mostly a game of pretend, anyway - I know very well that I have plenty of savings I could access if I blew my budget. But it would affect my retirement, which is very very very far away and thus hard to conceptualize. For me, cash, debit, credit card - they all feel equally nebulous. I suppose I could artificially limit my checking account so as to make the bite of all of these (debit charge, credit card bill, ATM withdrawal) more painful, but that feels extreme. But maybe it's not actually extreme, just a way to check myself. *ponder* This may be something to consider when I'm more than 6 months out from Eric's death. There has been a lot of change and pain, and I don't know that punishing myself for exceeding my budget for a given month is a great idea. But if I exceed my budget every month, it's a wakeup call. (Then there's stuff like having to pay for work expenses like flights and hotels, and being reimbursed a month later ... ) . Then again, again, why do I view "limit what's in checking, and make it a little more painful by having to transfer money in to pay bills" as punishment? Much food for thought.