@Seldomski, the key to your skiing is to learn how to tip the skis on edge rather than pushing them to an edge. I suspect you started skiing on straight skis where the "poke, pop, pivot, drop" method was effective and even taught as a mechanism to turn. What I'd have you focus on is learning how to tip the skis to an edge to establish a platform very early in the turn that can accept the pressure that will arise in the turn -- these two factors allow the ski to bend and to redirect your mass across the hill.
So, there are two things I'd have you work on. The first is the skate to tip progression. Get rid of your poles and find someplace flat, or (perhaps as a progression) slightly uphill. What do you have to do to effectively skate? You need to start with a bent ankle, knee, and hip and roll the knee in to establish a platform (edge) against which you can then push. Practice this rolling of the knee into the hill.
Once you can really get a good edge and can skate efficiently, find a gentle blue or green slope that has minimal traffic and good site lines. Now it is time to practice J turns. Start at a shallow traverse across the hill and roll both knees into the turn. Note that you must be in a relatively flexed position (knee, ankle, and most importantly, hip) to effectively tip those knees into the hill. Virtually all of your weight should be on the outside (downhill) ski. Examine your tracks -- you are looking for two absolutely clean tracks of the skis without any skid. As you can accomplish this in a shallow traverse, keep increasing the starting point exposure to the fall line until you are able to start straight down the fall line and bring the finish of the turn straight back uphill without any skidding.
Now you are ready to focus on the transition. See if you can cleanly untip the skis and roll the knees down the hill to establish the new turn. Accomplish all of this by action of the knees -- roll them down the hill to untip in the finish of the old turn and continue tipping them past flat into the new turn. Try to make all of this as clean as possible.
What this will require is your body to move with the skis rather than away from them. Resist any temptation to push on the ski or, for that matter, to extend your leg at this point. You want to accomplish this through tipping, not through pushing.
What you will notice is that you are flexed through transition. So now might be time to work on the second progression. These are pivot slips with retraction. The objective is to be maximally flexed in the ankle, knee, and hip at edge change. Edge change for a pivot slip is when the skis are flat and in the fall line. So start in an extended position with your upper body facing down the fall line -- the separation between your upper body and lower body is in the hip joint. So the skis are across the fall line, but your upper body is facing down the fall line. Start side slipping straight down the fall line -- if you are drifting forward along the skis across the hill, your weight is too far forward, and if you are drifting backwards, you are too far aft. Get in the center of the skis and you will slide straight down the fall line.
Now start rotating your legs (your femurs) to allow the skis to steer increasingly down the hill. This isn't a turn, its a slip straight down the fall line. As you rotate the legs (and skis), flex your ankles, knees and hips so that when your skis go flat and are moving straight down the fall line, you are flexed. Keep steering the skis up the hill by rotating your legs, but now start extending your legs.
This second drill is intended to help with two important factors: separation of the upper and lower body, and the ability to turn the skis from a flexed position.
These two drills will go a ways toward putting more performance in your skiing. The three things that they will address are:
- Tipping the skis to an edge rather than pushing them to one,
- Separating the upper and lower body, and
- Learning to use dynamic range of movement in your skiing.
Good luck!
Mike