I ride a hard tail and tires are my rear suspension. The tires that came with the bike had to be run at 30-35 psi otherwise they squirmed and pinch flatted. I had about 15 flats in 3 seasons. I finally researched mtn bike tires and learned their casings vary from one tire model to another, and even within the same model tire. Very confusing, but from other's experience I run 2017 Nobby Nic's in 29 x 2.35" and I run them around 19 psi. Its pretty amazing that tire side wall and casing make that much difference but it does. I weigh 240lbs, so Amy running hers around 15 is pretty comparable I would guess.
I did allow a friend to pump up my tires when we were in a hurry to leave one ride, and even though I told him 19 psi, he felt he knew better and pumped them to 30 psi. I was having a bad bike day, as you might expect, and kept thinking the bike feels like the tires are too hard, but I assured myself they couldn't be because I specifically told my friend 19 psi after he questioned it. I wanted to kick his a*** when I bounced off the trail, hit a fallen tree and ruined my deraliler on a tree branch. That 's when I figured it out.
Amy, don't let your friend near your tire pump is my advice.