When I see my trainer, we usually mostly work on technique and body mechanics for a few key exercises, and I ask a few questions. But the instructions he'd given me for ski season were confusing me - I haven't been skiing as much or as hard as I'd planned, so I'd been "improvising," and I tend to improvise in the direction of "push harder." I've felt great and have been getting stronger. I like the muscles I see forming under my protective layer of insulation! But when I offhandedly said to my boyfriend, "Things are going so well - but I worry because I always get to this point and then something falls apart," he heartily agreed with me. "Yeah, you're pushing the envelope. You'll make big gains that way, but you're taking a risk." That wasn't the response I'd expected. When your boyfriend who's been consistently lifting for 20 years says that, and then he also says that he thinks my workouts are insane, and most people think his workouts are insane ... it gave me pause.
So I asked my trainer to spend one of our sessions in pure Q&A session about "How do I know what to do every week?" - or, I guess, the technical term - "programming." He wasn't able to consolidate decades of knowledge into an hour long conversation (jerk!), but he was able to give me a solid plan for how to manage gym time and other activities each week based on how much I'd been skiing. Also, I learned the word "cycle" in the context of "programming." (So much vocab!) Also, he reminded me that my boyfriend works out purely to develop strength, while I am still effectively in a mix of rehab and general fitness. BF doesn't ski or do any similar sports - lifting is his passion. His workout plan is going to look different than mine. I can't lift like a beast and also ski like a beast in the same week (booooo!). At least, not for long. This is always my problem. I want it all.
It's pretty simple, but still hard for a stubborn mule like me. Yes, I need my trainer to help me with form and give me pointers - but his primary job is to keep me from pushing too hard. It is not an easy job. It's not that I've been ignoring him - it's that I've been sort of ... elaborating on what he said, or filling in the blanks incorrectly. I didn't mean to. It's just my natural enthusiasm and goal-driven mindset coupled with, well, not knowing any better.
So I have some ground rules. I am going to try really hard to stick to them. No, wait - I am going to stick to them, dammit. I'm proud of myself for asking for clarification and requesting the "Come to Jesus" meeting - BEFORE I hurt myself.
If I skied hard all weekend (or tore down my body in subzero temps, or otherwise wore myself out), I don't progress to the next week of the cycle.
If I can't do 10 reps of the last set and feel confident I could have done 2 more with excellent form, I don't progress to a higher weight in the next cycle.
If I get to 10 and feel good, I don't do more reps just to see if I can.
I don't just go and do extra gym workouts (like, say, an extra 90 deadlifts on the weekend) just for the hell of it. (rude!)
Also, while he'd previously given me a schedule for what body parts to exercise on which days, I was all over the place in terms my exercises every week, and doing too many of them (apparently). I just don't think I'd understood his previous instructions. Now I have five specific exercises for each of the three days, and I stick to them for at least a cycle.
Generally speaking, I need to remember that my goal is to keep myself healthy and fit through ski season - I can switch focus to gains in the spring. My knee and spring skiing don't get along, anyway.
I do think I'm going to feel like I have too much energy left over, which probably means I should actually *koff* be doing the cardio that I've conveniently been neglecting.
GOOD NEWS though: my programming includes deadlifts! Real ones that make me feel like a beast, not the annoying ones with the fat bar that make me feel like a wuss.