Been out of the discussion for a bit, but I am going to bring in something no one wants to talk about.
Guess what? You are all going to die.
My dad passed 21 Dec 19 and I became the executor. When people think its found money to be a paid executor, they are fools. You work for it. I heard in the past that if you really dont like someone, make them the executor and there is some truth to that. His has been fairly straight forward, but it is still a pain. Should be complete mid Mar.
To make your kids life easier, AND to know that as much of what you earned and already paid taxes on does not get grave robbed (yes fed doesnt kick in until big bucks, but the states have no problem dipping into normal peoples coffins), you need to make sure that your kids or heirs are either co owners, beneficiaries, or trustees.
In PA, if you die with all of your accounts over 10k having beneficiaries and property in a trust, you dont even need a will. The hardest part so far is working with some financial institutions. If there is no one named on a account, the bank doesnt have to tell you it is there even when presented a death cert. They will if you are sworn in as executor and have a short cert (extra paper you pay the state for that says you are a executor) However, if the account is less than 10K in PA, you dont need an executor, catch 22. You cant find out if you need to be an executor until you become an executor. If the acct is under 10k, the bank needs a copy of the paid funeral expenses to turn the funds over. They want the blood of your first born, but legally they get the copy, and thats it. It literally took 6 weeks and 3 letters to get 2500.00.
Check the death tax liabilities in your state. PA for ex is 4.5% of any holdings of the decedent. If you have a 100k and one kid as a beneficiary, the tax will be 4.5% of 50K. MA has no death tax, until you reach a certain point (1M pretty easy to hit with a home and 401K in MA). Then EVERYTHING is taxed at a pretty high rate per the other heir.
So, in a nutshell, put beneficiaries on your cash, put your real estate in a revocable trust, put enough in a joint acct with an heir to pay for the funeral, or prepay it.
EDIT, and talk to your kids about what you have. You dont need to give them amounts, but institution, type of acct (CD, savings, IRA ect) and if possible a contact # of the person you work with. If it is Jake, from Fidelity, who wears khakis, then put his name down.