Flexion, on its own, doesn’t not equal release
We can agree on that. There could be some argument on the margin that the unweighted ski stops turning but that's not that relevant for this discussion.
Taking the ski off the edge is the critical part of the release. The way you do that and the other things you do together with it dictate the type of release, imho.
Its not the fact that the leg flexes any time and for any reason - it's when it flexes at a certain time, right after being long at max edge angles, in order to allow flattening the ski in a certain way that makes it a flex to release. Again, you can release in other ways, too, of course.
Some for instance flex in transition - say the leg stays long at the end of the turn and the skier gets the up impulses and after that impulse, the skier flexes - that would not qualify as a flex to release in my mind, at least not a good one... It is a specific phase that some skiers go through when learning the flex to release and with good skiers is hard to tell the differences sometimes. They got good at hiding various versions of a small push-off.
I think also the opposite is also true, likely more frequent, when someone relaxes a bit and allows the leg to flex a bit under power, but then extends so the legs are long again at skis flat - that's not a flex to release; we can maybe call it flexing to end the turn.
So, to call it a good flex to release in my mind, is when the leg relaxes and starts flexing when you decide to release and it continues relaxing and flexing more or less through flat. So basically at max edge angles is longest and at flat it's shortest.
So - you are right, the flex itself is not the release, but it tells which kind of release it was - did you hop off the edge or extend or did you flex - you gotta do one of.
Even when you flex to release, there are several sequences you can use around the weight transfer for instance.
So - did the skier punch off of the BTE or did the skier instead give into it? That's the basic discriminator. No need to explain why or anything - anyone is free to do either.