Lots of good responses on this post. It's appreciated! It's overwhelming to google and review some of the suggested areas due to the sheer volume. Looking at the Onthesnow reviews for some of the above suggestions, I see a lot of talk about ski apre. Though I appreciate a good after skiing adult bevy, the ski apre/night life is the very last thing on my list of importance. My wife and I once took a trip to Breck not knowing it was college week. BIG MISTAKE.
Anyways, point being is that I would like some suggestions for locations where the atmosphere is friendlier for older middle aged farts.
The thing that you need to remember is that these places aren't small groups of condos at the base of the mountains; they're towns. So even if you're somewhere that is known for its bars and clubs, you can easily avoid them, because there's more to the town than just that.