Do you think opposites attract?

[va_deb]

Feel free to share any interesting stories about ways you are opposites -- or ways you're eerily similar -- to your better half (or to your ex-half). Money, how you spend your free time, parenting style, time you spend online, etc. Or talk about couple friends or family who are opposites if you like.

 

[Philpug]

As my son says "Peas in an effin pod".

 

[Blue Streak]

Don't get me started.

 

[Large Squirrel]

me, extrovert. wife, introvert. 'nough said

 

[AmyPJ]

Other. Divorced from the opposite. Oil and water do NOT mix.
My opinion (now that I'm dating and have been seeing the same guy for 8 months) is that the oil and water mix has to be complimentary. Maybe more like oil and vinegar? Has to be the right blend. Throw in some salt, pepper, and herbs or sweetness, and it tosses well with the salad of life

How's THAT for a cheesy metaphor?!

 

[Nancy Hummel]

I think that a successful partnership requires people to have similar core values. Opposite hobbies, personality traits and temperament can work just fine.

 

[Bill Talbot]

skiers and NON skiers... NO (not long term)

 

[surfsnowgirl]

My guy and I are opposites in some ways but we have lots of common ground in certain areas so we work.

 

[dlague]

I am Type B and she is Type A. But I use that loosely, There are tendencies when we are both types. Both come from decent size families so that works well. We both like to get out and do stuff, and I was able to shape her into a decent skier that is willing to get out there 40-50 days from a person that did not ski at all. That seals the deal right there! Spontaneity is key to this relationship. I am the oldest sibling and she is the youngest sibling.

BTW, this is my second time around. My ex was from a small family and that did not fit my family dynamic. She was more of a home body and I liked to get out more. I actually got away from skiing while with her and returned to the sport when our child turn 3 - then I got the bug back - she was not interested. She thought the risk of the sport was to dangerous - pfff! That was the problem - she was very calculated. Spontaneity - was not in the cards. We were both the oldest among our siblings.

Last wife - was too opposite. Current wife somewhat opposite.

 

[Jenny]

We are similar in the basics, but I am an oldest child and he is the baby, which you can see in some ways. I am much higher maintenance (read stressed out and tense) and he is much more laid back, to the point where it can be frustrating for me, but stressful for him if I'm frustrated.

I use the old Looney Tunes cartoon with Spike the bulldog and Chester the terrier as an example:

 

[Tico]

I'm 5'7" and a mountain guide. She's 6'2" and is a PhD geologist. I'm brown, she couldn't be whiter. She's an early riser, I'm a night owl. Etc. Together almost 20 years now, with one kid.

 

[Bad Bob]

yes

 

[Crank]

Yes. Used to be married to my opposite.

Now am engaged to my soul mate. In many ways we are like the same person.

 

[trailtrimmer]

Attract, yes. Go the distance, less likely.

 

[Uncle-A]

Attract, yes. Go the distance, less likely.

Attract YES with 38 years married and many years dating before marriage.

 

[surfsnowgirl]

A couple years ago we spent the day with my ex and his woman and then it became clear that he and I were so opposite it wasn't even funny. I wanted to throttle him after spending the day with him. How the hell did I spend 7 years with him. My guy now and I are coming up on our 7 year anniversary and while we do have our differences we are good for each other and we have lots of common ground.

 

[Guy in Shorts]

Yes, my wife likes to ski on groomers as a first choice and they are my last choice.

 

[Bill Miles]

We are different in some ways (she doesn't ski, among other things), but we share a warped sense of humor.

 

[Drahtguy Kevin]

I think that a successful partnership requires people to have similar core values. Opposite hobbies, personality traits and temperament can work just fine.

This is The Wife and I in a nutshell. Often times we want to get to the same result but take different paths. Mine is littered with beer cans, bourbon bottles and curse words. Hers not so much although she is handy with the F-bomb.

 

[Bad Bob]

It is all in the opposites. My wife is as different in many regards as it is possible to be. Skier and a non. Water lover and a dry lander. A mountain guy and a flatland woman.

After 41 years we are a lot alike in many ways too.

Ying and yang perhaps?