Whitewater of course, but also Silver Star and Schweitzer up there.
Ummm......Whitewater is the very definition of what she’s looking for, with awesome food as an added benefit. Silver Star and Schweitzer are anything but dirtbaggish, they are full-scale resorts with lodging, high-speed lifts (both actually have 6-packs) and other amenities. That said, they are less travelled, less crowded, less expensive than most resorts that @Analisa is eschewing, and lots of locals who know how to ski. If she is willing to compromise on the dirtbag principle, she would have a great time at either/both.
I empathize with her plight. I might make Baker my new home as well next year. I’m teaching with an independent ski school at Stevens, and it’s not clear whether Vail will allow concession schools next year.